tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post1731450878047913217..comments2023-05-29T05:37:49.224-07:00Comments on Notes of Naya: Freaking OutJamiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-53626802929395139372012-09-12T09:28:40.516-07:002012-09-12T09:28:40.516-07:00I hope so :)I hope so :)Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-36224774157469786202012-09-12T09:28:27.797-07:002012-09-12T09:28:27.797-07:00Seriously. It's hard to be surrounded by stori...Seriously. It's hard to be surrounded by stories of babies who have passed sometimes. Sadly, it makes you wonder if any babies survive.<br /><br />And you are completely right. It will all be worth it with the new one :)Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-77667307888304987132012-09-12T09:26:20.044-07:002012-09-12T09:26:20.044-07:00Thanks Rebecca. It's amazing how overpowering ...Thanks Rebecca. It's amazing how overpowering anxiety can be. I think my best solution was using one of the pregnancy aps on my phone for a kick count. I found that my mind was overdoing the time between kicks. It's almost like I was looking for something to be wrong because I expected it. <br /><br />Thank you for the compliment on Naya's name. I think it was as beautiful as she was.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-50650301878812414462012-09-12T09:23:27.349-07:002012-09-12T09:23:27.349-07:00Thank you :)Thank you :)Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-81557825900934764502012-09-12T09:22:50.170-07:002012-09-12T09:22:50.170-07:00Thanks Rona! I can't wait to hear the good new...Thanks Rona! I can't wait to hear the good news from you! Hopefully soon :) I got a few prenatal massages and I loved them! I was very spoiled by Dan during this pregnancy :)Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-60050697677709249182012-09-12T09:21:38.061-07:002012-09-12T09:21:38.061-07:00Thanks Emily. Everything you said is completely wh...Thanks Emily. Everything you said is completely what I have felt. It's terrible, isn't it? Congrats on your rainbow!!! Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12985679868789331257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-2304973752816222072012-09-09T18:30:12.527-07:002012-09-09T18:30:12.527-07:00Thinking about you and the little one. I think eve...Thinking about you and the little one. I think everyone of us now sees the bad possibilities hiding in the shadows. It is absolutely ok to tune out for a bit if you need to- I know before this happened when I was dealing with my miscarriages I had to drop from the support boards for a bit during the pregnancy. Now I am not sure what I will do as my fears penetrate into the after birth side as well. I guess everything is on a day to day basis. This is a different child- control what you can and/or should, the result does not have to be the same. I firmly believe that there is more good ahead for you in your life, for all of us- maybe not the future we wanted, but still worth it. There will be a day that you will see this new child meet bittersweet steps and be incredibly happy that you are there for it.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02792351200247570656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-41376373906540454172012-09-06T06:48:16.338-07:002012-09-06T06:48:16.338-07:00Keep in mind this rainbow baby has a guardian ange...Keep in mind this rainbow baby has a guardian angel watching over her to keep her safe. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-45770828006910970242012-09-04T06:36:33.561-07:002012-09-04T06:36:33.561-07:00With my last pregnancy, I had a lot of worries (in...With my last pregnancy, I had a lot of worries (including previous pregnancy losses, work, school, no sleep, and children). When my baby was not moving enough, I would start to have anxiety attacks that I could feel slowly building up. I would wait, and wait, and when that little one would take too long between movements and it had been hours, I would literally wake her up. I would move my belly around (hey, if the doctors can do it then why can't I?) or gently feel her feet (she was a big girl) and rub them until she woke up and start moving around. It might sound silly, but it kept me sane. After a while I think she knew the drill, I would rub her foot (hey are you ok in there?) and she would kick back (yes, mom, now leave me alone). Anyways, it is worth a shot and don't be scared to wake your little one from a rest to give you the reassurance that you need. <br />I'm hoping for your little one's safe arrival soon, and sending good thoughts your way. I wish I could help more, I am a helper, always cleaning and prepping for friends and relatives. <br />Also, I am at that age where it seems like everyone I know is having a baby. I am not one that tends to shove advice at people, but this is one area where another's experience really can be a life saver. I always make sure that they know that their baby needs to poop before they leave the hospital and that if they aren't eating it is a red flag. <br />Thank you for sharing your experiences.<br />I love Naya's name, and I am looking forward to hearing your rainbow's name and about their safe arrival very soon. <br /><br />Take care :)<br /><br />-RebeccaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-76110556277627411552012-09-03T18:18:57.656-07:002012-09-03T18:18:57.656-07:00Jamie, I have been thinking about you a lot latel...Jamie, I have been thinking about you a lot lately and am so happy that you will be holding and loving your baby soon. I am sad for the hurt you feel about Naya but very joyful for the new life you will be blessed with. Much love, Judy A.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-80438496783411807282012-09-02T17:33:19.288-07:002012-09-02T17:33:19.288-07:00I hear you, Jamie. I am not pregnant (yet, hopeful...I hear you, Jamie. I am not pregnant (yet, hopefully soon) but honestly sometimes I dread it as much as I hope for a pregnancy. The roller coaster ride of emotions because of your loss combined with the hormonal stuff must be so crazy. I totally hear you on the whole NOT being able to go with the 'everything will be fine' thing anymore. We have lived through the nightmare of our lives and will never be the same. Have you tried prenatal massage? I'm a big massage-junkie and though know it won't change everything it may help calm you down for a little while. I will be thinking of you in these final weeks of your pregnancy and wishing you lots of calm and peace in the midst of the storm. Rona Fernandezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00052827397873271782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-57993854917143224742012-09-02T16:39:54.969-07:002012-09-02T16:39:54.969-07:00Big hugs. I hope your new little one arrives safel...Big hugs. I hope your new little one arrives safely...and soon!Nelopeenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8149631277259218166.post-8373522887654632472012-08-30T16:52:11.204-07:002012-08-30T16:52:11.204-07:00I'm so sorry, friend. I can't imagine your...I'm so sorry, friend. I can't imagine your fear right now, but I do think it's normal given what you've been through. I will tell you that even though my losses were so different and nothing even remotely close to what you have endured in losing Naya, even with my 2 first trimester losses this current pregnancy has been pure hell. Like you said, once you know that things don't always work out (and once you immerse yourself in this community and see just how MANY things go wrong, you're right) it's impossible to just let go and trust it will all be ok. Because the truth is, we're never guaranteed that. <br />It makes sense that your fear is worse now than earlier in the pregnancy, b/c you are nearing the point where all hell broke loose. And I truly think there is PTSD involved with all of this, so the closer you get to when bad things started happening, the more anxious you are bound to be. And I'm sorry about that b/c it's not fair. You know, just like you said, that the chances are so much better for all to go WELL than for tragedy to strike again, and I truly believe all will be well, but that doesn't mean it's easy to relax and not worry.<br /><br />Every day I panic at least once when I realize my baby hasn't moved in a while (I'm 26 weeks). Every day I let the thought run through my head that my baby might be dead. I can't help it. We lost both babies with NO warning that anything was wrong, and so I am conditioned to expect the worst. I know it's so different from what you are experiencing, so please don't think I'm trying to compare our losses here. All I am trying to say is that you are not alone in your fear and anxiety, and that I think you are doing remarkably well given what you have been through. You can do this! Look at what you have been able to do so far (carry this pregnancy this far while dealing with so much grief and fear), and know that you DO have the strength to keep going. You are so close to holding that baby in your arms!<br /><br />Hugs to you from Michigan,<br />EmilyEmily https://www.blogger.com/profile/06166528973767848150noreply@blogger.com